1. Do not expect perfection
It is common in relationships for people to expect perfection. Expecting perfection is a recipe for heartbreak. What you are is what others are. They are not perfect. They try to hide their imperfections. Unless you truly get to know them, you will never be aware of their hidden flaws. Just like you put on make-up or wear a fancy cloth line to hide few imperfections here and there, do not expect people to be perfect.
2. Do not expect people to always understand you
Some people will understand you, and some will not understand you. In times of vulnerabilities, people tend to expect others to understand their feelings, their inner thoughts and their situation. But this is not always the case. Sometimes it takes experience for someone to understand your situation. While your friends may try, there is not guarantee that they will understand you. Sometimes you need to be single to understand how it feels. Sometimes you may need a heartbreak to understand the pain. In the same way, do not expect someone to understand what you are experiencing in life.
3. Do not expect people always to be there for you
We tend to move in a roller of emotions. Today we may be there for you but tomorrow we may have personal battles to handle. Doing both is hard. Some people try to show concern and be there when you are in trouble, but they may not be there forever. It is important to accept that they also have a life to live. They have other friends to comfort, loved ones to care for, and other significant things in their lives.
Even in a relationship, honesty is measured by the level of disagreements and how each one of the parties supports his or her position. It is foolhardy to expect people always to agree. In any case, people who always agree with you are not helpful in life. Genuine friends and partners offer their opinion even if it differs. It is your responsibility to support your arguments to convince others. If you are unable to convince someone, it is always good to see their perspectives too.
5. Do not expect extremes from others: The worst or the best
There are pessimists and optimists. Pessimists will invent a parachute and optimists will design a plane. That is how the world works. Nature gives room for everyone to exercise their beliefs in the best way possible. Some people find it impossible to trust anyone because they believe people are evil. Others jump into relationships expecting angels. The two extremes are not right, strike a balance in your expectations
Change is hard. People are opposed to change, and if you are expecting someone to change, it may take forever. Sometimes they may fake changes only to revert to their old ways. You must make sure you strike a balanced level of expectations.